I'VE been on the wrong end of some dreadful refereeing decisions in my time, both as a player and a manager.
When I was at Mansfield, I reacted badly to some poor refereeing and ended up having to post a couple of Christmas cards containing £500 to the FA. But I've learnt my lesson.
That's why you rarely see me giving referees a hard time and I make a point of not criticising them publicly after games.
It's an attitude I now try to drum into my players.
For example, I had to have a word with Dave Artell at half time in the match at Barnet.
We'd just had Stewart Drummond sent-off and tensions were running high, but there was no excuse for Dave to run 40 yards to confront the referee.
He's 6ft 3in and it can be quite intimidating when you see him running at you! The only way a referee can respond is to reach for his cards, and I still don't know how Dave didn't get booked.
When you become that aggressive, you waste energy. I say to the players 'What is the point in wasting all your energy on someone you are not directly playing against?'
I've gone on record to say how much we've missed Stewart in the two games he's sat out through suspension since he was sent-off.
He kicked out at an opponent and that one minute of madness has cost him financially. It also means he will have to fight to get back into the team but hopefully he has learnt from his mistake.
Talking of refereeing decisions, there has been plenty of debate this week about whether video technology should be introduced to help officials - like it has been in cricket and rugby league.
There have been fresh calls for it after West Ham were awarded a goal against Middlesbrough on Sunday when video replays clearly showed the ball hadn't crossed the line.
Personally, I would like to see things stay as they are.
You have to have continuity in football and the rules must be the same for everyone - whether you're playing in the Premiership or in park football.
I've lost plenty of games through bad refereeing decisions, but I've won a few because of them too.
It's part and parcel of football. n As most women will know, size does not matter.
That saying applies in football too and it's why I had no reservations about offering our vertically challenged youth team midfielder Paul Rutherford his first professional contract.
In the first few weeks I was at the club, the people involved in the youth team kept telling me to have a look at the lad.
They said he was the shining light of the youth team and one step ahead of some of the other lads.
He might be small but he's certainly a natural footballer. He handles the football very well, has good balance, good movement and is learning his trade.